Some First Date Advice
A good friend of mine, whom I will not name for his sake, had one of the worst first dates I have heard of. Self-sabotage at its finest. But hey, we live, and we learn. He learned the hard way, so ya’ll don’t have to! So, below I will list the opposite of his mistakes so you do not make them yourselves.
If it’s cold, don’t sit outside.
Especially in the south, if your first date is in winter, odds are the girl doesn’t wanna sit outside, especially if there’s a strong wind. You are just asking her to be miserable at that point. The only time this is acceptable is if she mentions wanting to sit outside first.
Don’t Comment About Her Face Unless It Is A Compliment
“Your eyes look watery, are you crying?” Yeah buddy, she’s probably crying because its freezing and windy out. This is just one example of what not to point out. Others include those crooked teeth, that odd mole, that peach fuzz above her lip, etc. If it’s not a genuine compliment, you might just insult her, even if it wasn’t your intention.
Be Honest But Don’t Scare Her
Asking “How long before we become official?” can seem a bit pushy or overwhelming on a first date. Following up with “Well, I gotta know because I am talking to 4 other women” is absolutely absurd. In almost every scenario, a girl does not need to know how many other options you have on a first date. I am all for transparency, but dude, you’ll break your glass house saying that. You can mention your situation and exclusivity maybe on the second or third date. Mention your depth chart on date uno and she’s finding another team.
Be intentional but still act Casual
It’s a first date so have fun and enjoy the moment. But also pay attention to if ya’ll align, the chemistry, how you feel afterwards. The key here is balance. This shouldn’t feel like a company interview loaded with serious questions and pressure. On the other hand, you shouldn’t be so carefree that you end up going on a second date with a girl that’s no good for you. Have fun but pay attention.
If she said she doesn’t Kiss on the First Date, DO NOT GO IN FOR THE KISS
If boundaries have been discussed, do not cross them. You are already breaking trust and leading with your flesh. A Godly woman, especially, will most likely diss you after such a move. Only make a move if she’s been dropping clues, and it feels right. But I advise against Christian Men kissing on date one in most circumstances.
These tips may seem elementary or obvious, but obviously someone needs to read this. Bet my buddy wishes he did. Dating is hard for men, especially men of faith. Don’t make it harder by self-sabotaging in these ways.
